Xenia

Recently I found myself in a situation where someone very dear to me started a vendetta. This involved the usual rumors, false stories etc. I lost a lot of people I was fond of in the process. As the days passed I uncovered a plethora lies which was really hard to swallow. It tarnished my reputation as a woman and a person. Needless to say, they were all false. It really bothered me that people who knew me interacted with me were buying into all these fairy tales. A few solutions crept into my mind and a lawsuit; believe it or not; was one of them. However, better judgment stopped me. I sat back and analyzed the situation. The real solution was a bitter pill to swallow but was necessary nevertheless. "Do Nothing" ironically it's the hardest thing you can do. Because most of the people that start spreading rumors are looking for a reaction of some sort. But if you don't give it to them they will die its natural death. Yes, you will lose a few people along th

There comes a moment in everyone's life where everything happens all at once and a sense of overwhelming anxiety takes over which almost paralysis you. It's hard enough having a start up and now you have an illness  or a family dispute demanding your attention. At that moment you want to stop and yell at the top of your lungs "I AM ONLY ONE PERSON!!" But you know that won't help so you start bottling things up and before you know it you have become passive aggressive. You snap at your subordinates. You start projecting on to your support system. And they listen with an open ear and take the crap being dished out to them. Now here two things happen: Things start to get better around you and you bounce back to your original self. Where everyone is happy and no ones the wiser.  Or things start to get worse and you go down this downward spiral where the people around you don't know who you are anymore and they snap and leave you be. Now your logical arg

Everyone has a support system. They may not have a traditional one but one that works for them nevertheless. But like all well-functioning machines, it tends to do its own thing from time to time and you need to figure out a way to make it work again. Sometimes all it needs is a good “Servicing.” Unfortunately for an entrepreneur, we survive on the positive energy of our support system. We rely on them for comforting words, a shoulder to cry on or just being the punching bag we require at that time. The road to success is a long winding one; we all know that. And the current government rules, regulations, and economic crisis are making it so much harder. The frustration gets the better of us quite often and we take it out of the people we know aren’t going to desert us. But this is not the only aspect, which drives a wedge between you and your loved ones. “Expectation” is one that hurts the most. Initially, when you start out all bright shiny eyed and you fail you h

I started my company at a turning point in my life. I got out of a toxic relationship and my work helped me stay afloat. It was my escape, my salvation. It was hard at first because everything became a chore and a serious one at that. From getting out of bed in the morning to simple follow ups. But one step at a time I came out of it. Looking back three years later I have more or less achieved everything I set my heart on: 1.      I wanted to be feathered in the media. Midday and DNA to mention a few have covered me. 2.      I wanted to publish something. I wrote an article that got picked up by Hospitality Biz. 3.      I wanted to start my own banquet. I have a beautiful experimental space in Ballard Estate that’s my pride and joy. Yiamas: The Experimental Space! 4.      I wanted to grow my team. I did. The list does go on but I can say with gratitude in my heart that not a lot of people can sit at the end of one of the biggest slumps in our country’s economic hist