Xenia

When I was studying in Glion I met my best friend. A genius in his own right, cocky, a perfectionist, a dear soul, a hard worker, patient when required and cordial when he needs to be. He taught me one very important thing; 2nd best isn't an option. He truly believes that mediocrity shouldn't exist. He always gave his best at whatever he did and didn't settle for anything but the best in return. He held my hand and taught me that I was someone who was intelligent and shouldn't settle either. He gave me perspective when I needed it most and brought me down to reality when I needed it most. We both grew extremely cocky but that in our defence that was because we knew WE WERE THE BEST at what we did and no one came close. Today I have a company of my own that is on it way up there and he started at the bottom of the food chain in a corporate world and in a few short years and turned his profile around. He stood infront of me the other day and I couldn't help but smi...

Your journey to success is yours and yours alone. Not a lot of people understand your struggles and you can't expect them to. Most of the people we know today have jobs and their struggles are very different. But when you initially set out on your own; often times people ask you; so how is it going? And you be like uuummmmm good I suppose. Cause what do you say to a person you know is earning more than you. Plus you know they think that you have taken the easy way out. My story is even funnier. Being a girl from a upper middle class family people think you are pursuing a hobby and any small achievement they come and give you hearty congrats. They think I go to the office and sit around watching sit coms on my laptop all day; which is true on a few days; but not all the time. While it isn't a financial need to work; being a girl and all *wink wink*; it is a necessity for me. I couldn't imagine not having a place to go to everyday where my grey cells play riot with the e...

I am not a feminist in the traditional sense of the term but yes I do believe women do have to work harder at a few things. But that doesn't mean that we take that as an excuse. Women, today want to be equals. Want to be treated on par with in work field, same pay hikes, responsibilities etc. but then why is it that when it comes to actually pulling your weight women hide behind the excuse of being a woman. I am not saying every single woman does this. But in my experience a lot of women do that. We become our worst enemies and it exhausting ladies. A lot of us want to have it all; and while that does sound delusional; it is not unachievable with a little bit of compromise on the side. We are willing to compromise for our kids, husbands, families why not find a middle ground, because Balance is good thing (The last time I checked). Women in general become very vested in our families and our carriers take a back seat. Some of us just loose interest in a high powered carrier. So...

"Don't be Defeatist Dear, Its VERY Middle Class!" I don't think I could have said it better.  For the some of us who have ambition and started out on our own its a struggle. The journey is hard and no one tells us how hard its going to be, because everyones journey is different. I got into this without any illusions or misconceptions but there were somethings that still took me aback. As I realised that Ambition alone isn't enough, conviction and consistency; is equally if not more; important. For example, the low period! The horror of having been so busy in the past few months and then realising that your business on books is empty. The panic button triggers an alert and all hell breaks loose in your head. After a little effort most of us give up and say "Maybe it wasn't meant to be!" Not realising that this was the first of many. We hear of success stories all the time. Steve Jobs, Bill Gates or be it our parents.... They all have the sa...

We all tend to form our own little clicks since we were toddlers. Its a wonderful feeling to belong. A sense of comfort that you can fall back to. We in our lives have various clicks that we tend to take for granted i.e. Your family, Your friends, spouse or better half. But we tend to take this group for granted the most which is our business or work click. These are the people who we call in favours from, play nasty with and lead very superficial relationships with. This never was the case. In the good old days, when a hand shake was all it took, where a man/woman's word was the contract. Your belief in that word was the authenticity. There was no need for stamp paper or third party witness. Because we as people of commerce survived on our reputation. A reputation could make or break your venture and future prospects. One wrong move and you would be done for. There was integrity and mutual respect amongst fellow members of commerce. Those men or women never took these relations...

How many times has it happened to you... You meet some old acquaintance or a friend and you get a pang in your heart. Its called envy! There is a very thin line between Jealousy and Envy. Envy happens to someone who desires to become the person he envy's. Jealousy on the other hand evokes bad feelings and is harmful to you and not the other one unless like some sitcom drama series you plot "to destroy" the other person. But then you also need to consider the fact that you dont have an audience to entertain with your escapades. Envy is something that evokes a desire to be where that other person is. It instills a senses of gratitude when you achieve it. You start pulling out all the stops while simultaneously admiring the accomplishments of the others. This is an emotion you can use as a tool to bring out the best in you while also being able to be happy and part take in other peoples success. This is something of a rarity these days.  We often times say this is a ...

I walked out of a shopping mall the other day and I saw my ex - ex employer. They were standing next to a tapri having a glass of chai with a smoke. This would have been my reality had I still been working for hotels. There was this sweet moment when they saw me; where I looked into their eyes and smiled know deep down I am in a much better place than they are today, even though they held superior positions to me within the organisation at the time.  While I was an employee, often times I was bullied by the senior members and not in a good way. There was a lot of discrimination partly because I was a girl and partly because someone found out that I came from a upper middle class household. It wasn't a fare game anymore. There was a rejoinder to every statement and a comment to every answer. To the point that it lead me to give them my resignation, Thus ending my career with the hotel trade.  I loved working in hotels. The staff, the energy, the synergy, the team work i...