Finding the Real You (Part 1)

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There is a schedule or a time line if you will that society has mapped out for us. We are suppose to go to school, college, university, MBA (now a days is mandatory apparently), get a good paying job, get married, have kids, raise them, grow old and well die. Nothing about this is easy. Some find school tough, others their career. It’s all about your journey.

But there is one thing for sure should you decide to step out of the social norm be prepared to forsake some elements of this timeline set in front of you. One would think that today things like marriage isn’t as important as it used to be. I would say STOP and think again. I can already see most of you nodding at the screen or smirking. But it is true.

This is for the few of you who haven’t found your betroth, it’s ok. I say this because we all want to find someone. We are social animals and even the most introverted person needs some sort of companionship. Most of us find someone, settle down and get married. Some of us do it a little later and rest of us don’t manage getting around it at all. Is it tough? Yes! But all of us know what we want deep down the question is do we want acknowledge it?

There comes a time when 80% of your friends are married, engaged, seeing someone or being set up. The single ones form a group. Over a period of time they too start dropping out of the singles club, till only a select few of you remain. Now the question is do you live with it or succumb to peer pressure and settle for someone just because…..

There is no right answer to this, because it’s all about the circumstances around you. Sometimes you just don’t meet the right person and settling isn’t something one should do we all deserve better. The way I look at it is if you settle for someone then you are depriving someone else for their “Mr./Mrs. Right.” Cause being with someone and still feeling completely alone is a nightmare I don’t wish on anyone.

I have come to discover that most of us settle for someone because we are afraid of being alone for the rest of our lives. Yes, I said it! We get married for the wrong reasons. I just want all of us to stop, thinking and not react to peer pressure. The thing is we don’t see it as peer pressure we see it as the next stage, a natural step when in todays world its not so natural anymore.

Being whole in you is the key to happiness. Not relying on someone else to complete you is when you realise your true self. And he/she is beautiful just begging to be known. Finding myself is one of the toughest things I have ever had to do and still am doing. It’s a beautiful journey which opens up a side of you, you didn’t know existed but was present all along you just never gave it a chance.

Things to start you of on your journey:

1.     Journal: Keep a journal of goals, gratitude and affirmations. Asking yourself what you truly want is the toughest thing you will do. It took me a week. Read your goals and affirmations daily.
2.     Meditate: 10 minutes a day helps me a lot. I use headspace the app it works like a charm.
3.     Clean Up: De-clutter the spaces around you. Your office, car, room, house etc. Out with everything that you don’t use. Someone very dear once told me “Your outside is a reflection of your inside.”

Take the first step today in finding yourself…. Cause you are the most important person in your life….

The road is winding and bumpy…. But the view from up top is spectacular….

Till you don’t reach the top buckle up for the road ahead..


Smile, Breathe and Go Slowly….

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